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When i confronted him he told me “I love you but I have feelings for her”

But at some point, sex got less frequent

That’s not always the case. I thought my marriage was perfect. He was the first and last man in my life. We were married for 5 years. I gave him my trust and 2 years after our marriage he started his affair. The next day he told me he was leaving for the weekend. That day I left him. I understood that his love for her was stronger that his feelings towards me. When I married him I promise God that I was going to do everything just to make him happy. If he was happy with her then I had to step out. 10 years later and Im still alive full of pain and emptiness. Think twice before acting.

Dear Nikki, i’ve seen myself getting on the verge of cheating already twice. I am extremely happy I managed to avoid it, but now I know the path that got me there. Maybe my story can help you understand why cheaters cheat, and dont break up. The reason most relationships go bad is because of unmet expectations. So I was with that girl, and I was very happy for more than 3 years. I tried as hard as possible to be understanding and supporting. But then her father’s second wife asked for divorce. Her father was broken and she feared for his life and his sanity. So sex was still not in sight for more months. And I still loved her deeply and tenderly. But the lack of tenderness, of sex and of affection drive me mad. I *needed* to get physical with my woman to feel better, but my woman was not available because of all her troubles. So I began to play with the idea of getting what my woman was unaible to give me from somebody else, so that my needs got met, and that I could return to her side relieved – relieved from my needs, and relieved from asking her something she couldnt offert.

I began to question wether she really found me still attractive, or interesting, to the point I doubted she even still loved me

If I had “only” been unhappy in my relation, I would have simply ended it, and searched for a better partner. But I loved her, and I did not want to leave her. Nor did I want to impose my needs on her shoulders at a time where I knew she could not meet them. But I was feeling less and less loved, so I thought “why not get a shot of love from elsewhere, so that I can get back to my woman happier and more caring again”.

The time and place for my affaire was set. Everything was planned. But the night before I got struck by “my woman trusts me, and I am going to break that trust the hardes way possible. I am not allowed to do that”. So I called and canceled everything.

It was the hardes battle against myself of my life, and I won it. Unfortunately, my GF found out eventually that I had planned to cheat her, and she told very clearly that the https://kissbrides.com/pt-pt/bali-mulheres/ fact that I canceled it played no role, because I had the intent of cheating, and that it was the worst thing. We stayed together for 2-3 more months going to therapy, before she left me for another man. So all in all, I can by no mean figure out how every element played a role, but it surely did not help.